What is your biggest struggle with loving yourself?

Had you asked me this question 5 years ago, ‘self-love’ was way out of my priority list. It seemed less than secondary to the really important things like loving someone else. It would have seemed a little too narcissistic to me.

But then, life happened and someone left me without saying goodbye. I wasted the next four years of my life wondering what went wrong, contemplating my past decisions, having nightmares about running into him and not knowing what to do. I blamed myself for a decision he made on his own terms. I allowed him to break me into pieces, not just once but a million times. He made me believe that I wasn’t worth a thing. I couldn’t understand it wasn’t true. I couldn’t realize, I’m valuable.

Four years later, after one fine nightmare, I decided to face my fear. I confronted him and got a closure. It was that simple. I wish I had done that earlier because I felt free. The load was finally off my chest. I forgave myself. I muted that nasty voice inside my head that made me believe, I wasn’t good enough. That was crueler than anything ever thrown at me. I stopped hearing it. That was the end of my struggle with self-love.

Healing and self-love are not optional, they are essential. They take time but it’s important to not give up. Yes, it’s hard but once it’s built up in you, it can only get better. Believe me, even when you’re not feeling your best, you will still have everything you need to pick yourself up again. Self-love begins with you and stays with you wherever and whenever you need it to be.

What’s your story? If you don’t feel comfortable sharing it here, drop me a DM on Instagram. I’ll be there for you. 🙂